In June, three of us young women were seated around a dinner table in Mumbai. One woman in particular was sharing her woes and thoughts on love and marriage.
Then she turned the tables and asked me, "Do you want to get married?"
"Of course I want to get married," I replied. "My desire to be in a relationship and get married has been one of the biggest meditations of my life. Many heart whirlwinds, quite a bit of pain."
"Really?" another young woman put in. "But, I mean, you seem so peaceful about it."
I smiled. "Thank you. You know, I feel peaceful."
"How? Why?"
I paused for a moment, then grinned and leaned forward. "Okay ladies, let me break it down. Here's the reality check: I'm not in a relationship. Just a fact. Now, is there anything I'm willing to do about it? Yes or no? No. I'm not going to go figure something out.
"So I'm not in a relationship, there's nothing I'm willing to DO about it, voila: peace."
The two young women looked at me with wide eyes.
"It's that simple?"
"Yes. Bhakti Vidya Purna Maharaj once told me, 'When the time comes, the time comes.'"
The woman who had been sharing her woes grinned and said, "Wow. Perfect."
So if you're reading this and you're searching for or waiting for your life partner, just trust me, trust God: when the time comes, the time comes.
;)
"Real love is a pilgrimage. It happens when there is no strategy, but it is very rare because most people are strategists." - Anita Brookner
Then she turned the tables and asked me, "Do you want to get married?"
"Of course I want to get married," I replied. "My desire to be in a relationship and get married has been one of the biggest meditations of my life. Many heart whirlwinds, quite a bit of pain."
"Really?" another young woman put in. "But, I mean, you seem so peaceful about it."
I smiled. "Thank you. You know, I feel peaceful."
"How? Why?"
I paused for a moment, then grinned and leaned forward. "Okay ladies, let me break it down. Here's the reality check: I'm not in a relationship. Just a fact. Now, is there anything I'm willing to do about it? Yes or no? No. I'm not going to go figure something out.
"So I'm not in a relationship, there's nothing I'm willing to DO about it, voila: peace."
The two young women looked at me with wide eyes.
"It's that simple?"
"Yes. Bhakti Vidya Purna Maharaj once told me, 'When the time comes, the time comes.'"
The woman who had been sharing her woes grinned and said, "Wow. Perfect."
So if you're reading this and you're searching for or waiting for your life partner, just trust me, trust God: when the time comes, the time comes.
;)
"Real love is a pilgrimage. It happens when there is no strategy, but it is very rare because most people are strategists." - Anita Brookner
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